Okay, so this post is all about taking it up the ass.
I have been asked no less than four times this week if I would be interested in the idea of having someone's cock in my anal passage. (Doesn't it sound sexy when I put it that way?)
Now, this doesn't bother me in any way. I just find it curious that such a subject should be breached so many times in such a short period.
Now, let's get this straight- anal sex can be a fun and pleasurable activity, for those that enjoy it and do it correctly. And by correctly, I mean with patience and lube. Lots of lube.
The confusion here is not about the act itself. In fact, if you want a good, health related reason for women to do it- anal sex has been linked to decreased anxiety levels.
Apparently, there's an ingredient in male semen that is much more readily absorbed by the blood veseels in the rectum.
Butt sex for calmer people, yay!
It seems that anal sex is becoming more popular and mainstream in society than it used to be.
There was a survey released in 2005 that stated that 38.2% of men between 20 and 39 and 32.6% of women ages 18 to 44 engage in heterosexual anal sex. These percentages had increased by an average of 18.2% in just ten years.
It's a trend on the rise, and I must say I wonder at it. I mean, sure; breaking taboo is sexy.
Experimenting during sex is fun and keeps relationships interesting.
I guess this partly explains why being asked if you take it in the ass is a common occurance in the dating/ casual sex scenes these days.
There are just a few questions I'd like answered before I submit myself to em-bare-ass-ment.
Firstly, why is it that it's far more acceptable for men to stick the dick in women's asses than for women to dock the cock?
There's a ton of research done on gay and lesbian sex, heterosexual sex, including anal, with men as the penetrator, but seemingly little with women taking the 'lead role'. Certainly all of the men that have questioned me about anal sex have been referring to me receiving it.
It's my theory that the straight-male fear of reciprocal anal play is a potent mix of sexism and homophobia; a straight man can do it to someone else, but having it done to him is... Well, gay. (Which there is nothing wrong with, in my humble opinion.)
However!
The widely spread news of the anti-cancer benefits of prostate stimulation are giving straight guys a legitimate excuse to be more, uh, open to exploration.
Men’s magazines, which until a few years ago discussed anal sex only in terms of how to trick a girlfriend into giving it up, now talk about the male G-spot, a.k.a. the He-spot and how much pleasure a man can receive from this kind of stimulation while keeping himself healthy and cancer free.
I would encourage women to have a go at wearing the cock, so to speak; it's a very interesting power dynamic and one that many women find rewarding sexually.
Next question: What is it that is so damn fascinating about putting your junk in my trunk?
The various responses I've received from men when asked this question have been pretty much as I expected.
It's tighter. It feels 'naughty' and exciting. It's a new sensation. It gives him a feeling of dominance.
It allows him to give her more pleasure because he can also stimulate her vaginally (only the really smooth guys used a line like this).
Still, the fact remains for me that it is a place in my body that expels waste. There is absolutely no way I can make that shit sexy. (Y'see what I did there?). It does feel good, though. Shhh.
So, what we learn and question from all of this:
1) Anal sex can have a calming effect. Can't sleep? Spread 'em!
2) Straight men have a scientific come back for why they're merely self caring if they indulge in anal play, if they're insecure and feel the need to justify their choices.
3) More people are having anal sex. Soon, it'll become the new zumba and everyone will be doing it.
4) How will the increasing commonality of anal intercourse affect population numbers? (Both through reduction of pregnancies and the transmission of STI's through negligent hygiene and safety practices).
5) An ass is still an ass, no matter what you put in it. Be clean, play safe.
I have been asked no less than four times this week if I would be interested in the idea of having someone's cock in my anal passage. (Doesn't it sound sexy when I put it that way?)
Now, this doesn't bother me in any way. I just find it curious that such a subject should be breached so many times in such a short period.
Now, let's get this straight- anal sex can be a fun and pleasurable activity, for those that enjoy it and do it correctly. And by correctly, I mean with patience and lube. Lots of lube.
The confusion here is not about the act itself. In fact, if you want a good, health related reason for women to do it- anal sex has been linked to decreased anxiety levels.
Apparently, there's an ingredient in male semen that is much more readily absorbed by the blood veseels in the rectum.
Butt sex for calmer people, yay!
It seems that anal sex is becoming more popular and mainstream in society than it used to be.
There was a survey released in 2005 that stated that 38.2% of men between 20 and 39 and 32.6% of women ages 18 to 44 engage in heterosexual anal sex. These percentages had increased by an average of 18.2% in just ten years.
It's a trend on the rise, and I must say I wonder at it. I mean, sure; breaking taboo is sexy.
Experimenting during sex is fun and keeps relationships interesting.
I guess this partly explains why being asked if you take it in the ass is a common occurance in the dating/ casual sex scenes these days.
There are just a few questions I'd like answered before I submit myself to em-bare-ass-ment.
Firstly, why is it that it's far more acceptable for men to stick the dick in women's asses than for women to dock the cock?
There's a ton of research done on gay and lesbian sex, heterosexual sex, including anal, with men as the penetrator, but seemingly little with women taking the 'lead role'. Certainly all of the men that have questioned me about anal sex have been referring to me receiving it.
It's my theory that the straight-male fear of reciprocal anal play is a potent mix of sexism and homophobia; a straight man can do it to someone else, but having it done to him is... Well, gay. (Which there is nothing wrong with, in my humble opinion.)
However!
The widely spread news of the anti-cancer benefits of prostate stimulation are giving straight guys a legitimate excuse to be more, uh, open to exploration.
Men’s magazines, which until a few years ago discussed anal sex only in terms of how to trick a girlfriend into giving it up, now talk about the male G-spot, a.k.a. the He-spot and how much pleasure a man can receive from this kind of stimulation while keeping himself healthy and cancer free.
I would encourage women to have a go at wearing the cock, so to speak; it's a very interesting power dynamic and one that many women find rewarding sexually.
Next question: What is it that is so damn fascinating about putting your junk in my trunk?
The various responses I've received from men when asked this question have been pretty much as I expected.
It's tighter. It feels 'naughty' and exciting. It's a new sensation. It gives him a feeling of dominance.
It allows him to give her more pleasure because he can also stimulate her vaginally (only the really smooth guys used a line like this).
Still, the fact remains for me that it is a place in my body that expels waste. There is absolutely no way I can make that shit sexy. (Y'see what I did there?). It does feel good, though. Shhh.
So, what we learn and question from all of this:
1) Anal sex can have a calming effect. Can't sleep? Spread 'em!
2) Straight men have a scientific come back for why they're merely self caring if they indulge in anal play, if they're insecure and feel the need to justify their choices.
3) More people are having anal sex. Soon, it'll become the new zumba and everyone will be doing it.
4) How will the increasing commonality of anal intercourse affect population numbers? (Both through reduction of pregnancies and the transmission of STI's through negligent hygiene and safety practices).
5) An ass is still an ass, no matter what you put in it. Be clean, play safe.
